A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.
Marriage is a wrestling match where you hold on tight while your mate changes into a hundred different things. The trick is that you’re changing into a hundred other things, but you can’t let go. You can only try to match up and never turn into a wolf while he’s a rabbit, or a mouse while he’s still busy being an owl, a brawny black bull while he’s a little blue crab scuttling for shelter. It’s harder than it sounds.
Catherynne M. Valente, The Girl Who Soared Over Fairyland and Cut the Moon in Two (Fairyland, #3)
Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created, so that, together we become a new creature.
To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take…If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation…It takes a lifetime to learn another person…When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling, and which implies such risk that it is often rejected.
Madeleine L’Engle, The Irrational Season (Crosswicks Journals, #3)
“No marriage stays in the same pattern forever. It is both the best feature of marriage and the worst, that it inevitably changes.”
― Lisa Kleypas, Love in the Afternoon
“There is nothing more lovely in life than the union of two people whose love for one another has grown through the years, from the small acorn of passion, into a great rooted tree”
― Vita Sackville-West
“There is no such thing as a perfect match. There are only somewhat good and somewhat bad matches. A couple are like two pebbles that are next to each other on a beach. They will have rough edges and rub each other the wrong way initially. But as they spend time together and the waves pound them, the edges rub off and they will seem made for each other.”
― Farahad Zama, The Many Conditions of Love
“People stand in front of an officiant and say ‘I do’ but that shouldn’t mean ‘I’m done’ when comes to putting time and effort to grow their relationship.”
― Beth Ehemann, Room for More