Whether getting married or not, sisters, sometimes we all get a little unsure of ourselves and in need of reassurance, comfort, and love. It is especially true if we step onto the emotional roller-coaster that is wedding planning.
In these cases it often helps to remind ourselves what’s truly important about us.
What makes you valuable and worthy of love?
Everyone has their own idea of what makes a person valuable and lovable. I think it comes down to personality and determination to achieve something in life. We earn respect, provide for ourselves, and respect and care for our loved ones – in so many ways, we try to make our mark in the world.
As we are busy making our mark in the world, our bodies gets beaten up by gravity, elements, and emotions… Our bodies are a testament to our life, to its trials and tribulations, and to the difference we’ve made (or tried to make) in the world.
“But even though she was attractive, there was something else about her that caught his eye. She was intelligent, he could sense that right away, and confident, too, as if she were able to move through life on her own terms. To him, these were the things that really mattered. Without them, beauty was nothing.”
― Nicholas Sparks, Message in a Bottle
“I’ve always loved strong women, which is lucky for me because once you’re over about twenty-five there is no other kind. Women blow my mind. The stuff that routinely gets done to them would make most men curl up and die, but women turn to steel and keep on coming. Any man who claims he’s not into strong women is fooling himself mindless; he’s into strong women who know how to pout prettily and put on baby voices, and who will end up keeping his balls in her makeup bags.”
― Tana French, Faithful Place
“Be not the slave of your own past – plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep, and swim far, so you shall come back with new self-respect, with new power, and with an advanced experience that shall explain and overlook the old.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson
“[I]f we revert to history, we shall find that the women who have distinguished themselves have neither been the most beautiful nor the most gentle of their sex.”
― Mary Wollstonecraft, A Vindication of the Rights of Woman
“I am larger, better than I thought; I did not know I held so much goodness.
All seems beautiful to me.
Whoever denies me, it shall not trouble me;
Whoever accepts me, he or she shall be blessed, and shall bless me.”
― Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass
“I used to think that if I were a certain kind of person I would spend all my time creating something beautiful. Well, it turns out I am, and I am.”
― Jason Letts
“She made broken look beautiful
and strong look invincible.
She walked with the Universe
on her shoulders and made it
look like a pair of wings.”
― Ariana Dancu
“I’ve enjoyed every age I’ve been, and each has had its own individual merit. Every laugh line, every scar, is a badge I wear to show I’ve been present, the inner rings of my personal tree trunk that I display proudly for all to see. Nowadays, I don’t want a “perfect” face and body; I want to wear the life I’ve lived.”
― Pat Benatar, Between a Heart and a Rock Place: A Memoir
“You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don’t owe it to your mother, you don’t owe it to your children, you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked ‘female’.”
― Erin McKean
“Scars are but evidence of life,” Coquette said. “Evidence of choices to be learned from…evidence of wounds…wounds inflicted of mistakes…wounds we choose to allow the healing of. We likewise choose to see them, that we may not make the same mistakes again.”
― Marcia Lynn McClure, The Whispered Kiss
“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
“There is a face beneath this mask, but it isn’t me. I’m no more that face than I am the muscles beneath it, or the bones beneath that.”
― Steve Moore, V for Vendetta
“Day after day, countless people across the globe get on a scale in search of validation of beauty and social acceptance. Get off the scale! I have yet to see a scale that can tell you how enchanting your eyes are. I have yet to see a scale that can show you how wonderful your hair looks when the sun shines its glorious rays on it. I have yet to see a scale that can thank you for your compassion, sense of humor, and contagious smile. Get off the scale because I have yet to see one that can admire you for your perseverance when challenged in life.
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
“That’s always seemed so ridiculous to me, that people want to be around someone because they’re pretty. It’s like picking your breakfast cereals based on color instead of taste.”
― John Green, Paper Towns
“I wasn’t pretty, but as my mother once said, prettiness wasn’t my profession.”
― Jonathan Stroud, The Screaming Staircase
What is true beauty?
“What we seek, at the deepest level, is inwardly to resemble, rather than physically to possess, the objects and places that touch us through their beauty.”
― Alain de Botton, The Architecture of Happiness
“Beauty is eternity gazing at itself in a mirror.
But you are eternity and you are the mirror.”
― Khalil Gibran, The Prophet
“Whole life is a search for beauty. But, when the beauty is found inside, the search ends and a beautiful journey begins.”
― Harshit Walia
“True beauty is a ray
That springs from the sacred depths of the soul,
and illuminates the body, just as life
springs from the kernel of a stone and
gives colour and scent to a flower.”
― Khalil Gibran, Love Letters in the Sand: The Love Poems of Khalil Gibran
“Beauty is the purest feeling of the soul. Beauty arises when soul is satisfied.”
― Amit Ray, Nonviolence: The Transforming Power
“When, indeed, men speak of Beauty, they mean, precisely, not a quality, as is supposed, but an effect – they refer, in short, just to that intense and pure elevation of soul – not of intellect, or of heart.”
― Edgar Allan Poe
“Beauty exists not in what is seen and remembered, but in what is felt and never forgotten.”
― Johnathan Jena
How can we be truly beautiful?
“There is nothing more beautiful than a vulnerable heart in open hands.”
― Amanda Mosher, Better to be able to love than to be loveable
“True beauty could be discovered only by one who mentally complete the incomplete.”
― Kakuzō Okakura, The Book of Tea
“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.”
― John Joseph Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love
“Peace is the number one beautiful ornament you can wear, I really believe that. They say you should always wear a smile, but I don’t believe that you should “always” wear a smile, seriously, you’re going to look stupid! But peace, you should always carry peace within you, its the most beautifying thing you could ever have or do. Peace makes your heart beautiful and it makes you look beautiful, too. You want to have perfect physical posture when you stand, sit, and walk, and peace is the perfect posture of the soul, really. Try perfect posture outside as well as inside. Peace creates grace and grace gives peace.”
― C. JoyBell C.
For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair, let a child run his fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge you’ll never walk alone.
― Sam Levenson, In One Era & Out the Other
“[She] was a remarkable looking woman. Remarkable in that she wasn’t what most people would call beautiful. But she oozed a raw femaleness that I was certain made most women uncomfortable and sent men walking into walls. And when she smiled. Well. That was magic.”
― Beth Hoffman, Saving CeeCee Honeycutt
“She is a rare soul, she has this infectious energy that makes you want to run next to her, she belongs to no one but herself, and anyone who has yet to understand themselves will find the missing pieces in her presence.”
― Nikki Rowe
“I think happiness is what makes you pretty. Period. Happy people are beautiful. They become like a mirror and they reflect that happiness.”
― Drew Barrymore
“Some days I wake up
and all I feel
are the fractures
in the flesh
the only me
I’ve ever known.
it’s those exact
that let the light
hiding inside me
that found enough beauty
in the cracks
― Tyler Knott Gregson
“She was so intelligent that she could think herself into beauty. Intelligence…they don’t talk about it much, the poets, but when a woman is intelligent and passionate and good…”
― Eva Ibbotson, A Company of Swans
Why outer beauty is unattainable
“If the stars should appear one night in a thousand years, how would men believe and adore; and preserve for many generations the remembrance of the city of God which had been shown! But every night come out these envoys of beauty, and light the universe with their admonishing smile.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson, Nature and Selected Essays
“But beauty, real beauty, ends where an intellectual expression begins. Intellect is in itself a mode of exaggeration, and destroys the harmony of any face.”
― oscar wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray
“People are crying up the rich and variegated plumage of the peacock, and he is himself blushing at the sight of his ugly feet.”
“Beauty is no quality in things themselves: It exists merely in the mind which contemplates them; and each mind perceives a different beauty.”
― David Hume, Of the Standard of Taste and Other Essays
“There are as many styles of beauty as there are visions of happiness.”
― Stendhal, Love
How everyone is beautiful
“When you start to really know someone, all his physical characteristics start to disappear. You begin to dwell in his energy, recognize the scent of his skin. You see only the essence of the person, not the shell. That’s why you can’t fall in love with beauty. You can lust after it, be infatuated by it, want to own it. You can love it with your eyes and body but not your heart. And that’s why, when you really connect with a person’s inner self, any physical imperfections disappear, become irrelevant.”
― Lisa Unger, Beautiful Lies
“To the people who love you, you are beautiful already. This is not because they’re blind to your shortcomings but because they so clearly see your soul. Your shortcomings then dim by comparison. The people who care about you are willing to let you be imperfect and beautiful, too. (20)”
― Victoria Moran, Lit From Within: Tending Your Soul For Lifelong Beauty
“They wore their strange beauty like war paint.”
― Holly Black, The Coldest Girl in Coldtown
“I hate slick and pretty things. I prefer mistakes and accidents. Which is why I like things like cuts and bruises – they’re like little flowers. If you have a name for something, like ‘cut’ or ‘bruise,’ people may be disturbed by it. But when you see the same thing in nature, and you don’t know what it is, it can be very beautiful.”
― David Lynch
“Look at the stars. See their beauty. And in that beauty, see yourself.”
― Draya Mooney
“Just one smile
Immensely increases the beauty
Of the universe.”
― Sri Chinmoy, Sri Chinmoy’s Heart Garden: A Book of Aphorisms for Joy and Inspiration
“The appearance of things changes according to the emotions; and thus we see magic and beauty in them, while the magic and beauty are really in ourselves.”
― Kahlil Gibran, The Broken Wings
Repeat after me: I am beautiful
“She wins who calls herself beautiful and challenges the world to change to truly see her.”
― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
“I am so beautiful, sometimes people weep when they see me. And it has nothing to do with what I look like really, it is just that I gave myself the power to say that I am beautiful, and if I could do that, maybe there is hope for them too. And the great divide between the beautiful and the ugly will cease to be. Because we are all what we choose.”
― Margaret Cho
“Just because you are blind, and unable to see my beauty doesn’t mean it does not exist.”
― Margaret Cho
“You look beautiful,” Alodia says.
I startle at the compliment. Then I smile. “I’m beautiful to the one person who matters.”
She nods. “Hector’s mouth is going to drop open when he sees you.”
“I hope so. But I meant me. I’m beautiful to me.”
― Rae Carson, The Bitter Kingdom
“Relax. You are beautiful, and everyone wants some of that beauty.”
― Julie Metz, Perfection: A Memoir of Betrayal and Renewal
“You must really begin to harden yourself to the idea of being worth looking at.”
― Jane Austen, Mansfield Park
“The French girls would tell you, to believe that you were pretty would make you so.”
― Elizabeth Gaskell, Wives and Daughters
“All those other girls are cake…I’m Crème brûlée…Tiramisu, if you will. Just a few notches above.”
― Brandi L. Bates
“She stands as a tribute to all that surrounds her. A woman of beauty, in a sunset of desire.”
― Anthony T. Hincks